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Talking About Herpes with Sex Partner | Ask the Expert
Herpes simplex is a very common virus and can break out on any moist surface of the body. A person is contagious when there is an active herpetic lesion, and close contact must be avoided during these times. There is also a potential for “viral shedding” even when there is no outbreak, so use of condoms is essential with any new sexual partner…all the time. Herpes is not life threatening and announcing that you have had the virus before a romantic moment is not necessary. But the best sex happens between partners who know each other and have talked about their lives. Discussions about birth control, protection and yes, even herpes virus, should be part of a relationship that will be on-going.
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When should you tell a potential sex partner about herpes?

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Toni Brayer, M.D.Toni Brayer, M.D.Internal Medicine, Medical Advisor for MyLifeStagesCalifornia Pacific Medical Center
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Toni Brayer, M.D.Internal Medicine, Medical Advisor for MyLifeStagesCalifornia Pacific Medical Center

Dr. Toni Brayer has practiced Internal Medicine in San Francisco for over 20 years. She graduated Cum laude from the University of Arizona College of Medicine and she is a Fellow in the American College of Physicians. Dr. Brayer has served as President of the San Francisco Medical Society and Chief of Staff at California Pacific Medical Center, and is currently the Regional Chief Medical Officer at Sutter Health, as well as the Medical Advisor for the MyLifeStages program . She is a known speaker and writer on a variety medical topics.

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Herpes simplex is a very common virus and can break out on any moist surface of the body. A person is contagious when there is an active herpetic lesion, and close contact must be avoided during these times.

There is also a potential for “viral shedding” even when there is no outbreak, so use of condoms is essential with any new sexual partner…all the time.

Herpes is not life threatening and announcing that you have had the virus before a romantic moment is not necessary. But the best sex happens between partners who know each other and have talked about their lives. Discussions about birth control, protection and yes, even herpes virus, should be part of a relationship that will be on-going.

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